Mom Drama Is A Thing

I have to admit, now that I’m a grown up, I thought I would be done with girl drama. I thought I wouldn’t have to deal with the bickering, petty fights, and silly arguments. It was hard enough in high school, but as an adult, I’m shocked. I never thought there would be any type of Mom drama.

I was wrong. Mom drama is a thing.

I know I’m not the only one who feels this way. There are plenty of other Mom’s who experience this, and who whisper about it at at cocktail parties, soccer games and PTA meetings. We’re trying to help our kids navigate the challenges growing up can bring. We give them advice and tell them what they “should” do, while we still deal with it ourselves. Our drama doesn’t take place on the playground or lunch table, but it’s still there.

Every once in awhile unexpected drama pops up and I’m reminded of how challenging it can be for my teenage daughters. I forgot how it sucks the life out of you and can cause stress and anxiety. It’s no fun to be misunderstood, no matter what age you are.

Mommy drama is a thing, and can sting.

Mommy drama is a thing, and can sting.

As an adult, I truly don’t have the time or patience to argue about petty things with people. Life is too short, and honestly, I’m too tired. It takes a lot to get me all worked up at this point in my life and I’m happy about this. Sadly though, other Mommies don’t share the same feelings. In fact, some thrive on it. They like to gossip, talk badly about other people, and judge. There’s that word again…judge.

Recently at lunch with a group of Moms I adore, we started talking about how it shocks us when we have Mommy drama as adults, and how little things can somehow become big deals. What I find especially shocking is that no one is trying to become the Prom Queen or get on the Homecoming court. We’re all just trying to do the best we can, raise our kids, and make it through the day.

But, jealousy can waive her ugly hand even when it comes to adults. People are people, and I guess no matter how old you are, everyone wants to feel validated. They want to feel like they fit in. They don’t want to be left out. This is usually what causes Mommy drama, but it can get a little complicated when someone says something bad about your child. That’s where people are especially sensitive. Understandably so. You can say anything you want about me, but start picking on my kids and I might become someone I don’t recognize.

As I tell my teenage daughters, when we talk about school girl drama, just try to walk away. Remove yourself from the situation and eventually it will calm down and pass. Try not to buy into the madness. You aren’t going to be friends with everyone, and that’s OK. Just try to be nice. As an adult, this is much easier to do because you don’t really HAVE to be around anyone if you don’t want to be. It’s not like you have to play on the playground or eat in the cafeteria.

Be careful who you spend your time with. Try to surround yourself with positive people who bring out the best in you. Don’t buy into the Mommy drama. Simply walk away and focus your energy on other things. You’re doing the best you can and if someone doesn’t like it or you, that’s their problem.

Don’t make it yours.

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  1. Kristen Daukas on February 22, 2016 at 9:10 am

    I refuse to participate and am the one who calls people out on it. Maybe that’s what would help slow it down – the next time it starts everyone just shut the person down who is stirring the pot. We’ll either help or never get invited back… either one would be a win in my book.

    • Dara Kurtz on March 17, 2016 at 8:04 am

      Either would be a WIN!