It’s hard to find alone time with your significant other. It’s challenging to make time for your relationship, especially when you have kids who can suck the sexy out of you. Balancing marriage and family can be difficult.

Kids have needs. Kids are demanding. Kids are high maintenance.

It doesn’t matter how old your children are. They’ll always be your kids, and they’ll always need something. And if you’re like me, you wouldn’t want it any other way.

But, that doesn’t mean you can’t take care of your marriage and family at the same time.

You can, it just might take a little effort.

You don’t have to choose one over the other. There’s room in your life to take care of both, you just have to be more creative about it once kids arrive on the scene.

It’s all about making your significant other feel loved and appreciated. Make this a daily priority, and take the time to make sure you connect with the person you love.

It’s important.

Remember, you’re showing your kids how to have a relationship. When they grow up, they’ll look back and think about what they learned from watching you.

Here are 5 ways to have marriage and family:

1.  Get a babysitter. This is so obvious it seems silly to even write it. I’m shocked there are people who rarely get a sitter and go out on a date with their significant other. Nothing is going to happen if you hire someone to watch your kids for a couple of hours. I know it can be expensive, but it won’t break the bank to hire someone every once in awhile. Ask your friends for recommendations if you need help finding someone you can trust.
2. Sneak some alone time. You might have to get up a little earlier or go to bed a little later, depending on the sleeping schedule of your kids, but you can find alone time. In your house. Watch a TV show together after the kids go to sleep or have a morning cup of coffee in bed together. The time is there, somewhere, you might just have to work hard to find it.
3. Write. Thanks to technology, it’s easy to communicate with people. Send your significant other an email, text message, or whatever social media platform you’re into. It doesn’t need to be long, but who doesn’t like getting messages during the day? If you give, you shall receive.
4. Dine alone. I’m a big believer in having a family dinner as often as possible. But, every once in awhile, have dinner for two. Have a nice candlelight dinner, order take out and enjoy it in your PJ’s, or have fun making dinner together. The food isn’t what’s important. It’s being together.
5. Say I Love You. We all get busy. We all have a lot to do. We’re all juggling a thousand things. No matter how busy you get, or how much you have going on, you can always take the time to say, “I love you.” Do it. No excuses.

Don’t just go through the motions of your relationship while you’re busy raising your kids. With a little effort and planning, you can have a great marriage and family.

Find meaning each day,

Dara

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