Got A Question? I’ll Try To Answer It

I love hearing from you and I always try to personally respond to your questions. I’m thrilled to provide a question and answer segment on Crazy Perfect Life. Once a month, I answer a few of the questions I’ve received. Your name will never be used but this way other people can benefit from hearing the answers.

We can learn from one another and this makes each of us better.

Question:

Dear Dara,

My youngest son just left for college and now I’m sad and alone. I’ve been dreading this for years and I don’t know what to do.

Answer:

I get it. Completely. While I haven’t personally had a child go to college, I think about it and know it’s just around the corner. It’s normal to feel sad and miss your son. Of course you miss him! It’s an adjustment for you and one that will take a little time. Be patient with yourself and know it’s going to take time for you to find a “new normal.” You raised your son for 18 years. You aren’t going to be able to just drop him off at school and move on. At the same time, try to look at this as an opportunity for you to have more time to focus on yourself. Is there a hobby you’ve been wanting to do? An exercise class you’ve been wanting to try? I know it’s hard but remember your attitude will really impact your adjustment. Be patient with yourself and let yourself feel sad.

Question:

Dear Dara,

I was asked to be the chairperson for a committee at my church and I agreed to do it. The problem is, now I don’t want to do it. I really don’t have the time. What should I do?

Answer:

It can be very hard to say “no” to serving in a leadership capacity. Especially when you care and feel passionate about the particular organization. At the same time, only you know what you have on your plate, how busy you are and how much you feel pulled in a thousand directions. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t have the time, you probably won’t be able to give what is needed to get the job done. Be honest about this and talk to the president of the organization. Explain your situation and even offer to help find a replacement. By doing this, you’re showing that you care and want what is best for the success of the organization. I’m sure this will be appreciated.

Question:

Dear Dara,

I’m being treated for colon cancer and I’m frustrated that I have to go through this. It isn’t fair and I’m angry and sad about it. Why did this happen to me?

Answer:

You’re right. It isn’t fair and I’m sorry you have to deal with this. Sometimes life can be unfair and hard. It’s normal for you to feel angry and sad about getting this disease. If you’re going through treatment, I’m sure you’re facing side effects that make you feel yucky and that doesn’t help. Try to stay positive. Try to focus on getting through your treatments. I know it’s hard but you have to. Take one day at a time and just do the best you can do. For me, it was in some of the hardest moments of my life that I grew as a person. I didn’t see it until a little time had passed. I’m hoping this will happen for you.

If you have a question you want answered, you can email me at [email protected] or send me a message on social media. I try to respond to every message I get and won’t use your name if I ever use your question on Crazy Perfect Life.

Find meaning each day,