Sometimes I look around the room, when I’m at a party, and wonder if everyone is really as happy as they seem. If their lives are as “perfect” as they want me to think. I know the answer. Of course not.

Everyone has problems, difficulties, challenges, but most of the time no one talks about them. Instead, we wear a great big smile and act like everything is going fabulously well. We say we’re doing “fine.”

Why do we do this?

Do we pretend because we’re afraid if we start talking about our problems the lid on Pandora’s box will be released? Are we scared of what people will think about us once they know what’s really going on?

We sweep our problems under the rug, put them inside of a box, and close the lid tightly when we go out into public. We don’t want to air our dirty laundry to the whole world.

I get that things are “private,” and it’s polite to “mind our own business.” But, I have to admit, I’m truly not sure why we need to give people the impression we don’t have issues or problems. We’re all human, and the very nature of being human means we have flaws.

Everyone has problems.

It doesn’t matter who it is, how much money they have, or how high on the corporate ladder they’ve climbed, everyone experiences a snafu every now and then.

Sharing with other people, people who might just have the same issues, could help us consider a strategy we might not have even thought about. We can learn from other individuals.

At the very least, we wouldn’t feel alone. We wouldn’t feel like we’re the only person who has to deal with THAT.

I’m not suggesting you share your problems with everyone. Obviously, there’s a time and a place for everything. However, you might find your relationships grow stronger once you start opening up a bit more.

Don’t be so afraid to take the lid off of Pandora’s box every now and then. When someone opens up to me about a problem or situation they’re experiencing, it makes me feel more connected to them. It deepens our friendship. I would rather be around an authentic, real person, any day. Flaws and all.

It takes courage to be vulnerable and open up about what you have going on in your life. Think about this the next time you tell someone you’re “fine.” Maybe, just maybe, you’re both going through the same thing.

Find meaning each day,

Dara

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